If you have to live with a sexless marriage you know that it can quickly start to impact virtually every aspect of the relationship you have with your spouse. Many women find themselves married to a man who just loses all interest in intimacy. At first it may be easy to overlook because you internally believe that it will all work itself out. When it doesn’t and months and months pass without any sex it will make you start to question whether the relationship is something you want to continue to pursue. If you love your husband and you want to ensure your marriage becomes as passion filled as it once was, there are steps you can take right now.

Talking to your husband about intimacy or the lack of it when you live with a sexless marriage may actually be the worst possible thing you can do. Many men tend to pull back even more if they feel they are being put on the spot about anything very personal. If you approach your husband and start talking about how much you miss the intimate dynamic of your relationship he may feel cornered and guilty. It may cause him to create even more emotional distance between the two of you so it’s not advisable. It’s much more effective to work at developing a way of creating more closeness between you two which in turn may reignite his interest in intimacy.

There are several ways you can do this in a non-threatening way. Many women who live with a sexless marriage just don’t have any one-on-one time with their spouse anymore. If you two are constantly doing things with your children as a family and you don’t focus on one another as a couple, that’s part of the problem. It’s easy to put aside some time together. You can do things like go for a walk, rent a movie to watch at home or take a picnic lunch together. You just need to make an effort to create some couple time with him. During that time don’t be too forward. Subtle gestures like reaching for his hand or putting your arm around him may be enough to help the walls he’s built around himself start to come down.